WAYS TO COPE

If you are feeling like you are vulnerable and are about to fall in to a trip of dipping in to an helpful, eating disordered behaviour (i.e. binging, purging, starving, self-injury, over exercising or of course, withdrawing insulin) carefully read through this list of distractions/coping mechanisms. You may find they give you an idea of something else to do or that one takes your fancy.

A good idea is to make a coping bank; find an old shoebox, an old piggy bank or tupperware container etc and decorate it to suit your tastes (this could be pictures of loved ones, ribbons, affirmations, etc.) Cut a small slit somewhere on the coping bank; you will make your deposits here. On lots of little pieces of paper, write coping mechanisms that you know will help you in a bad situation. When new ideas strike you, deposit them in the coping bank. Place your coping bank somewhere where you will frequently see it to remind you that you a strong and always have alternative methods of coping rather than unhelpful ones. The next time you feel you cannot cope and want to dip in to an unhealthy behaviour, go to the coping bank and do what it says!

COPING MECHANISMS-

  • Write in your journal
  • Listen to your favourite music
  • Watch a sunset
  • Set up an Ebay account and sell some unwanted items
  • Colour in a colouring book
  • Play your favourite instrument if you play anything
  • Tell one person how you feel
  • Teach a child to play a game
  • Pop or stomp on bubble-wrap
  • Have a water balloon fight
  • Paint a picture
  • Go through your wardrobe, making piles of things to keep, things to Ebay and things to take to charity
  • Go to the pet store
  • Take a long hot bath
  • Go berry picking
  • Hug someone
  • Do some voluntary work. Go here if you are in the UK and here if you are in the USA
  • Take a long drive (please note; do not drive if you are particularly ill or distressed)
  • Pack up some clothes for charity
  • Go to a concert
  • Take a leisurely walk
  • Rent your favourite movie
  • Take a trip to the toy store
  • Go to a movie by yourself
  • Call an old friend
  • Finger-paint, doodle
  • Build with blocks. Build a tower and knock it down.
  • Build with Legos
  • Spend time with your pet
  • Wash your car with a friend
  • Pick dandelions
  • Have a water-gun fight
  • Play hopscotch
  • Have a snowball fight with someone
  • Paint a room in your house; give it a makeover!
  • Read a book
  • Take a vacation
  • Take a nap
  • Count and roll loose change
  • Throw nerf balls, koosh balls or bean-bags at a wall (available at most toy stores)
  • Remind yourself "It'll be Ok"
  • Take a deep breath, count to 10
  • Ask your therapist to make a tape with you that you can use during difficult times
  • Go to a favourite "safe" location (beach, park, woods, playground, etc.)
  • Think of advice you'd give someone else... and take it!
  • Say something good about yourself
  • Use self affirmation tapes and books... and make your own affirmations (use notebooks, index cards, tapes, post-it notes, journal)
  • Meditate, use relaxation
  • Have a pillow fight or punch a pillow
  • Do gardening or housework
  • Play your favourite game as a child
  • Spend time with a sibling/boyfriend/girlfriend
  • Hold and/or tell your favourite stuffed animal or doll your feelings
  • Find an MSN, ICQ, AOL or e-mail pal or join a chatroom/forum for support
  • Stay in touch with others through contact - don't isolate yourself
  • Call someone
  • Call your therapist if they are available
  • Call an eating disorder hotline
  • Play an instrument (if you play one)
  • Gently wash your hands, face and hair
  • Colour in a colouring book
  • Make a list of (productive) things to do or a shopping list
  • Make a bucket list! (A list of goals and things to achieve/do/see before you ‘kick the bucket!’)
  • Make a card and send it to a friend
  • Play a game on the computer
  • Make a list of why you don't want to engage in ED behaviours
  • Do a crossword puzzle or sudoku
  • Make a recovery scrapbook full of happy pictures, quotes and affirmations
  • Organise old photos
  • Write someone a letter
  • Watch an upbeat movie
  • Paint your nails
  • Pluck your eyebrows
  • Take a walk, bring a camera. Take pictures of things that inspire you.
  • Text a friend
  • Facebook a friend
  • Sketch a picture
  • Do some laundry/ironing
  • Make a playlist with a theme
  • Make a 'visual to do list' of things you want to be/achieve in your life using magazine cuttings, images etc. Put it up somewhere to motivate you.
  • Go to the library
  • Write some poetry